(Sports Network) - As upsetting as it can be for a parent, conflict between
siblings is pretty common.
As kids grow they compete for everything from toys to attention, and different
stages of development bring evolving needs which can spawn jealousy,
bickering and squabbles.
The Brothers Harbaugh are getting ready for one of the biggest sibling
rivalries of all-time in Super Bowl XLVII when John's Baltimore Ravens take on
Jim's San Francisco 49ers, but this isn't Peter and Bobby Brady splitting the
room down the middle with some masking tape.
This is a good-natured clash between two brothers who have grown into a pair
of the best football coaches in the world.
Jackie and Jack Harbaugh, the parents of the Harbaugh boys, and Joani Creen,
their younger sister and wife of Indiana basketball coach Tom Creen, talked
with the media on Thursday in an effort to highlight the interesting position
the family is in.
Jack, a former head coach himself on the college level at Western Michigan and
Western Kentucky, gets a lot of credit for molding the two minds that became
the first brothers in history to meet as head coaches on the NFL level but he
never pushed either in that direction.
"I think they both decided to get into coaching on their own," Jack Harbaugh
said. "They loved sports, had a passion for sports. They enjoyed being around
the game. Then came a time to make a decision in what their lifes work would
be, and they decided on coaching."
The first matchup between Jack's boys, on Thanksgiving in 2011, was won by
John's Ravens, 16-6. The sequel will take place in front of 100 million or so
of the Harbaughs' closest friends.
"I think I will start with the idea after the AFC Championship game. I felt
that was a joyful moment for them, for our whole family, our extended family
and for my father who is 97 years old," Jackie said. "(It was a) great feeling
of joy. I know one is going to win and one is going to lose, but I would
really like to end in a tie."
"Can the NFL do that?" she laughed.
A tie isn't an option and that has many probing the inner workings of the
family's minds, trying to hit on something.
A lot of people are rooting for John, the perceived "underdog" who rose up
through the NFL ranks the hard way. The Ravens head coach wasn't a star
quarterback at a football factory like Michigan, wasn't a first round pick by
a marquee franchise like the Chicago Bears, didn't spend 14 years in the NFL
as a player, and wasn't the flavor of the month as a coaching candidate after
a stellar stay at Stanford -- that's Jim's resume, a big man on campus-type
John spent his college years as a defensive back at Miami-Ohio, and was
perhaps best known as the roommate of Brian Pillman, who went on to become a
huge wrestling star with both Ted Turner's World Championship Wrestling
franchise and Vice McMahon's World Wrestling Entertainment empire.
The older Harbaugh brother didn't play a down in the NFL and spent 13 years
toiling the college ranks as an assistant at places like Western Michigan,
Pitt, Morehead State, Cincinnati and Indiana before Andy Reid gave him a shot
as the Philadelphia Eagles special teams coach.
John tutored the Birds special teamers for nine years before getting promoted
to defensive backs coach and most were stunned when the Ravens took a flyer
on him and made him their head coach in 2008.
Hindsight says Baltimore was right. Under John, the Ravens have recorded at
least 10 wins in four of five regular seasons, and own the NFL's second-most
wins (62, including playoffs) since his arrival in the Charm City. One more
victory in the Super Bowl and Baltimore would match New England, who has
amassed 63 wins since '08.
Joani was quick to defend Jim, who is 27-8-1 through two years as the Niners
coach with two NFC Championship Games and a Super Bowl appearance, however.
"I would have to respectfully disagree with that in a sense," their sister
said when asked if John had a tougher road. "Jim has worked incredibly hard at
every turn. Whether it was fighting to be in the NFL -- his seven years with
the Bears and three spectacular years with the Colts -- a lot of hard work
came into that every day.
"Even with the Oakland Raiders, he put in more hours ... we hear about his
deprived sleep and sleeping on the couch there, and he has really done an
incredible job. For after only being a head coach in the NFL for two years,
because of all of the hard work he has put in up until now "
Mom then explained each's journey.
"John made his choice to become a football coach, he started as a graduate
assistant, and he worked his way up through the ranks at different colleges
along the way," Jackie Harbaugh said. "I think what has happened for both of
them, all of the lessons they have learned along the way through their hard
work, also observing how other coaches handled their team .. they had put so
much time and energy into this."
So where do the family loyalties lie?
'John from Baltimore' jumped on the line and asked the toughest question of
"Is it true that both of you like Jim better than John?"
John Harbaugh couldn't fool his family, at least his sister anyway.
"Hey, John, how are you?: Joani said, quickly recognizing her brother's voice.
"Mom was ready to come right through this phone (and fight the questioner). I
am so happy Joani recognized your voice," Jack said.
The real answer, of course, was simple.
"We are neutral in the Super Bowl, and we are just excited that they have
brought their teams to the pinnacle of sports," Jackie said. "The Super Bowl
is the ultimate accomplishment for them and for their teams and for all of the
extended football family and all of the teams who have participated in this
great game. We are excited for that type of thing."
And in the end, no matter the score, the Harbaugh family is already the big
"I think the greatest joy I got in my life -- after seeing all of the ups and
downs, and the ins and outs, and all of the different things involved in the
coaching profession -- is that is something they would decide [to do]," Jack
Harbaugh said. "It was something they wanted to do."
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